我想你可以在网上搜索一下相关的信息。但是吼和打，我想都不是什么好的办法吧。

我儿子两三岁的时候有一段也有这样的问题.有一次很严重.带他出去玩滑梯,他竟然把一个小女孩的脸踢青了.我没有打他.我领着他到女孩的母亲跟前道歉.并且给女孩买了冰激淋.我整个下午都不跟他讲话.戴着墨镜黑着脸.我对他说由于他的粗暴行为,令我在其它家长面前丢了脸,同时他也失去了自己应该得到的冰激淋.

他看到我不高兴的样子,表现出来的担忧令人吃惊.正个下午他都拉着我的手,生怕我生气,而且也不再闹着要这要那.后来就没再发现有他打人的事情.反到是后来在幼儿园被其他的孩子打破了头(这是另外一个故事了)

你一定要让孩子懂得,打人不是解决问题的方法.同时让他知道,打人是令人羞耻的事情.

养儿才知父母恩啊!

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛2岁左右是toddler阶段，在儿童的身心发展上叫做ego center阶段，就是以自我为中心的阶段。当然不是每个孩子到这个时期都有攻击性，但是到这个年龄他们就特别的以自我为中心。认为什么东西都是自己的，只要自己喜欢，这个东西就应该属于自己。而且他们的智利发展还没有到可以理解share的阶段，也就是说，他们不会share。比如说，有一个火车玩具，这个孩子想要，如果你说你姐姐玩过了你再玩，他不理解，他认为你给了姐姐我就不能玩了。有的孩子攻击性强些，如果遇到别的孩子抢他的玩具，或者他想玩别人的玩具，而别的孩子又不给他，就会有咬，推，抓头发等比较有攻击性的行为出现。
如果家长仔细观察，在攻击性行为的出现都应该有前提（如果无缘无故，那倒是应该看医生）。所以在这个阶段，最好准备充足的玩具，物品，不要让他们share，每个人有每个人的，这样会相对好些。另外，当攻击行为出现的时候，告诉他你的感受，比如：i don't like that!! it hurts! teeth are for eating not for biting! 等等，要严肃，看着他的眼睛说，表示你很认真！而且要随时随地“keep eyes on him”，不断提醒他“be nice to your friends( sister...)”。

过了这个年龄阶段就会好的，大概在3岁左右，就会步出ego center阶段。各位妈妈不要担心，孩子都是好孩子，就是他们的年龄决定了有时他们不能控制他们的行为。更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛The teacher in daycare even told me she would do special observation on my son's violence.Of course i said "NO. it is too early and you are overeactive".(.Actaully that teacher did lots of overeaction.) I did not do anything special other than trying offering more happyness to him in order to let him relax...I do not remember when it had gone.
Anyway i understand that as it is not uncommon in this age particularly the children can not express themself and understand the world around them very well.Anyone need express themself to release the stress If they can not do it verbally they do it by behavior.
Please do not do too much punishment which will make things worse.In the first 2 months When my son upgraded to preschool from tolddler he changed so much everyday the teacher complained to me on his hitting,kicking.spitting......I was worried about him very much.Sometimes i punished him or i lost temper on him,which did not work at all.One day after i finished one whole parenting book one sentence impressed me.That is when environment around your children changed you can not expect her/his behavior doesn't change.it is normal. If the parents lose temper on their children that only can make things worse. I felt so guilty and i changed my own way. I understand my son,who like stable,was too stressful to be himself in the new room though it was in the same daycare. Actaully from them on i realized that children have their own way to adjust or see this world, which is what we do not remember from our own childhood or we do not understand from adulthood.What i can do is to listen and undersand them.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

不用太着急，大多数孩子这个时候都这样，我女儿平时是个听话有礼貌的孩子，12月15日2岁生日，最近也开始这样。不要表现的太在意，更不要生气，否则他会变本加厉。下次再这样的时候，你平静的把他叫到一边，告诉他：你是可爱的孩子，打人不对，别人会不喜欢的，下次不打，不高兴对妈妈说出来等等温柔疏导的话，过了这一阶段慢慢他就会控制自己的行为了（但是一定要每次都指出这是错误的，还有说他的时候要私自说，不要当着第三者说以便尊重他的自尊）你表现得越在意，他越变本加厉。