本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛I think we should get a few things clear before we make our judgements.
Question to you:
1. your son is only 4 years old. Did he ever pour the guice into cup by himself before? If so, is he skillful?
2. How your son pour the guice into the cup? when the accident happened? Did he pour from the 2L Juice box, 4 L Juice bottle, or 250ml can?
This definitely will make a big difference.
Practical Life skills, like buttoning up the close, tieing the shoe lace, carrying objects, pouring water are essential skills that kids will learn in Montessorri system.
I am not saying Montessorri system is good, I am trying to emphsis that pouring water is a skill that kids need to learn, need to practise.
Learning and Practice bonds to failures.
If we can acknowledge this, then I am sure most of us, including your husband will first do our best to provide the proper tools/settings for the kids to practice. We will think 4L is too heavy, 250ML can is good. We will encourage them to practise more.
Even if your kids is very skillful at pouring water already, we should accept the fact that incident does happen. We should recognize that the kid has no intention to pour the juice on the floor.
We can ask them to clean it up(I normally tell my son, who makes the mess, who cleans it up), or we can clean it together with the kids.
Cleaning up is not a pulishment here.Asking kid to clean up the mess just to teach them that is their responsibility. There is a difference here, and trust me, kids are smart enough to tell the difference.
The way your husband handled the situation was too simple, rough. He should set up his expectation based on a 4 years-old skills, not his own skills.
If you two want, he should say sorry to the kid.
One more thing, one off this kind of situation won't leave a huge scar on kids' emotions. Just don't make this situation a habit.
Good Luck and Enjoy your son!更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
Question to you:
1. your son is only 4 years old. Did he ever pour the guice into cup by himself before? If so, is he skillful?
2. How your son pour the guice into the cup? when the accident happened? Did he pour from the 2L Juice box, 4 L Juice bottle, or 250ml can?
This definitely will make a big difference.
Practical Life skills, like buttoning up the close, tieing the shoe lace, carrying objects, pouring water are essential skills that kids will learn in Montessorri system.
I am not saying Montessorri system is good, I am trying to emphsis that pouring water is a skill that kids need to learn, need to practise.
Learning and Practice bonds to failures.
If we can acknowledge this, then I am sure most of us, including your husband will first do our best to provide the proper tools/settings for the kids to practice. We will think 4L is too heavy, 250ML can is good. We will encourage them to practise more.
Even if your kids is very skillful at pouring water already, we should accept the fact that incident does happen. We should recognize that the kid has no intention to pour the juice on the floor.
We can ask them to clean it up(I normally tell my son, who makes the mess, who cleans it up), or we can clean it together with the kids.
Cleaning up is not a pulishment here.Asking kid to clean up the mess just to teach them that is their responsibility. There is a difference here, and trust me, kids are smart enough to tell the difference.
The way your husband handled the situation was too simple, rough. He should set up his expectation based on a 4 years-old skills, not his own skills.
If you two want, he should say sorry to the kid.
One more thing, one off this kind of situation won't leave a huge scar on kids' emotions. Just don't make this situation a habit.
Good Luck and Enjoy your son!更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net