我兒子也是三歲多, 這家伙連麥當勞的滑梯也不敢玩. 每次讓他自己爬上去玩, 也是大哭說, "我不敢."

於是我找了一天他精神好的, 晚上十點左右帶他去麥當勞(夜深沒什麼小朋友). 自己陪著他上爬上那個滑梯滑了幾次. 他才敢一個人去玩. 沒辦法, 每個小朋友性格不一樣, 如果可以的, 你還是陪著他一齊玩, 他可能覺得安心一點.

不過，　這家伙現在也克服不了怕水，死也不敢去游泳池玩水．我也算是個失敗的媽媽．　

all kids want to be loved, especially for those shy kids. make sure that the teachers at the daycare really love kids and are nice to kids. This is very important.

这个年龄的孩子对自己的看法，多是受大人观点的影响， 因为他们并不懂得那些形容词的真正含义，他们只是重复大人的言谈。 等到他们真正懂得了, 有时又太迟了,因为那个IMAGE已经深深地刻入了他们的脑海里.

试一试多带孩子 出去玩,
不要评判他的能力, 永远告诉他,他能行,大声表扬他的任何一点小小的进步,大声表扬他的willingness to try,
Don't let him down
耐心,爱心,恒心,信心,缺一不可.
这是对家长的考验,并不是对孩子的考验

Share with you, it took my boy one whole year to score the first goal in his soccer team. But both of us are extreamly happy since we all know he loves soccer, enjoys soccer, work hard on it, and is making very good progress: he hardly touched the ball last year, tried so hard to stay away from physical contact in the field, and now he is able to demonstrate the confidence in himself in the game, ...

I did not teach him anything, all I was doing just playing with him, watching soccer game with him (like euro 2008, world cup..etc).