本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛not get dressed. She want to stay home even by her own rather than go to the daycare. In the beginning when we ask her what happened during the day in the daycare, she answers co-operatively. Recently, she is more reluctuant to answer our questions about what happened in the daycare. And I can see her face that something is going on in her mind.
My speculation is that the kid's selfconfidence was challenged when first time go to the day care.
I think parents need to care more about their child's feeling and guide it or intervene. Talk to the care giver in the day care and find out what's going on during the day for her. And then talk to her and let her know why it happens that way and how to improve.
My daugher sometimes has accidents (pee on herself) several times during the day. She never did that in home because she has been off diaper for one year already.
She just dosen't want to sleep on anywhere else than her own bed. She sits on her bed during the nap time the first several days. Later on, she asked for pee just to get off her bed and cried out loudly when the staff try to put her back into her bed again. That way, she waked up everyboday else in the room. I am sure she won't get any good reputation because of doing that. And as a result, she would explained that she just don't like the school and don't want to go to the school.
Everytime when I talked to the day care staff, I can learn what happened during the day for her. And in the end, the conversation always ends like "it's natural and she needs time to adjust herself". I guess that the way it is. When I talk to my daughter, I tried to talk about the possitive side of the daycare such as lots of children, singing and playing.
It's natural. Just think about how to mingle into a new group. It happens during the life all the time: for a little kid started day care, for a high school student who just changed her school, for a person who just entred into a new job. It depends on whether she has the skills to cope with the situation and the support/resources she gets.
As of saying this, it may be helpful for her to learn something during this process and to prevent something going widely wrong, the good thing is that the parents and the care givers have all the power to steer the dynamics. The community within the pre-schoolers would be simpler than any of the others she may get into in her life later on.
Everyday, what I eager to know from my parents is "did she cry when you leave her at the day care." I really feel dragged down if the answer is "she cries and how difficult it is to get her out of the door of home !..." I think I just have to face this kind of answer everyday until it improves itself.
What I can do and need to do is communicate, communicate and communicate, both with my daughter and the day care.
Experiened moms and dads, any good ways to cope with this and make it easier for the child starting day care ?
And parents currently troubled with this, let speak out and we need to be powered with selfconfidence as well.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
My speculation is that the kid's selfconfidence was challenged when first time go to the day care.
I think parents need to care more about their child's feeling and guide it or intervene. Talk to the care giver in the day care and find out what's going on during the day for her. And then talk to her and let her know why it happens that way and how to improve.
My daugher sometimes has accidents (pee on herself) several times during the day. She never did that in home because she has been off diaper for one year already.
She just dosen't want to sleep on anywhere else than her own bed. She sits on her bed during the nap time the first several days. Later on, she asked for pee just to get off her bed and cried out loudly when the staff try to put her back into her bed again. That way, she waked up everyboday else in the room. I am sure she won't get any good reputation because of doing that. And as a result, she would explained that she just don't like the school and don't want to go to the school.
Everytime when I talked to the day care staff, I can learn what happened during the day for her. And in the end, the conversation always ends like "it's natural and she needs time to adjust herself". I guess that the way it is. When I talk to my daughter, I tried to talk about the possitive side of the daycare such as lots of children, singing and playing.
It's natural. Just think about how to mingle into a new group. It happens during the life all the time: for a little kid started day care, for a high school student who just changed her school, for a person who just entred into a new job. It depends on whether she has the skills to cope with the situation and the support/resources she gets.
As of saying this, it may be helpful for her to learn something during this process and to prevent something going widely wrong, the good thing is that the parents and the care givers have all the power to steer the dynamics. The community within the pre-schoolers would be simpler than any of the others she may get into in her life later on.
Everyday, what I eager to know from my parents is "did she cry when you leave her at the day care." I really feel dragged down if the answer is "she cries and how difficult it is to get her out of the door of home !..." I think I just have to face this kind of answer everyday until it improves itself.
What I can do and need to do is communicate, communicate and communicate, both with my daughter and the day care.
Experiened moms and dads, any good ways to cope with this and make it easier for the child starting day care ?
And parents currently troubled with this, let speak out and we need to be powered with selfconfidence as well.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net