本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛the time after 4:00pm the children may sometime sit there and sing with the teacher, which would be really good time if I can accompany my daughter and learn what they usually do in the daycare (such as which song they sing...).
I have so many questions in my head regarding what the daycare dose, I mean the activities. I heard that other daycares they asked parents to be in the daycare with their kids the first week and it is a must. However, my daughter's daycare don't allow parents to be there during the day time. (Maybe they think it would not be good for the kid to be integrated into the group if the parent is around. Or maybe they think it is not fair for the other kids...) I think it would be really a good idea and maybe negotiable with the staff that I am in the daycare with my kid for half a hour or so after 4 pm.
Picking up her would work better than dropping her off at the daycare. I had a chance to drop her off at the daycare one time and that even made the case worse. That day, my daughter is at her best condition (maybe she was proud that Mom was sending her to the daycare today and she probably trusted in me). She didn't cry on the road or even when she entred the daycare door. However, I just wanted to make the connection with the teacher and talked to the teacher about her nap time problem. The conversation went a little bit long and at the end the teacher asked me to translate "I like you" to chinese to my daughter. When she said "I like you" to my daughter face in face, my daughter cried right away and didn't even give me a chance to translate anything. The rest of the scene is that I hugged my daughter, took her up in my arms and comforting her. The situation made all of us very absurd. I was almost trying to tell the teacher that it is not her fault to made my daughter cry, because I saw the uneasiness on the teacher's face when my daughter bursted into cry suddenly. Once my daughter cried, it is even hard for me to leave. Eventrually, I had to leave my crying daughter with the teacher. This case dosen't help anything in any way. I think it even made thing worse. My daughter's behaviour was not as good as before in the following days. Probably in her little mind, she thought that the only time that Mom was around didn't help out in anything but made things worse. Again, her conficence was challenged.
At this stage of my daughter's daycare, dropping off her would more likely lead to a unhappy ending, while picking up her would probably more likely lead to a happy ending. That is what my parents told me as well. To their experience, drop her and leave.
Experienced parents, do you do the same?
It is sometime hard to inteperate the daycare rules either. This Tuesday, the daycare had a trip to the zoo and one parent went together with the kid. I only know this when my parents told me this at the end of the day.
Xiao Yuer, your suggestion made me realize how important it is to pick up my kid myself and that it would open so many possiblities that would help to improve.
I will try this and hope it will work out as desired.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
I have so many questions in my head regarding what the daycare dose, I mean the activities. I heard that other daycares they asked parents to be in the daycare with their kids the first week and it is a must. However, my daughter's daycare don't allow parents to be there during the day time. (Maybe they think it would not be good for the kid to be integrated into the group if the parent is around. Or maybe they think it is not fair for the other kids...) I think it would be really a good idea and maybe negotiable with the staff that I am in the daycare with my kid for half a hour or so after 4 pm.
Picking up her would work better than dropping her off at the daycare. I had a chance to drop her off at the daycare one time and that even made the case worse. That day, my daughter is at her best condition (maybe she was proud that Mom was sending her to the daycare today and she probably trusted in me). She didn't cry on the road or even when she entred the daycare door. However, I just wanted to make the connection with the teacher and talked to the teacher about her nap time problem. The conversation went a little bit long and at the end the teacher asked me to translate "I like you" to chinese to my daughter. When she said "I like you" to my daughter face in face, my daughter cried right away and didn't even give me a chance to translate anything. The rest of the scene is that I hugged my daughter, took her up in my arms and comforting her. The situation made all of us very absurd. I was almost trying to tell the teacher that it is not her fault to made my daughter cry, because I saw the uneasiness on the teacher's face when my daughter bursted into cry suddenly. Once my daughter cried, it is even hard for me to leave. Eventrually, I had to leave my crying daughter with the teacher. This case dosen't help anything in any way. I think it even made thing worse. My daughter's behaviour was not as good as before in the following days. Probably in her little mind, she thought that the only time that Mom was around didn't help out in anything but made things worse. Again, her conficence was challenged.
At this stage of my daughter's daycare, dropping off her would more likely lead to a unhappy ending, while picking up her would probably more likely lead to a happy ending. That is what my parents told me as well. To their experience, drop her and leave.
Experienced parents, do you do the same?
It is sometime hard to inteperate the daycare rules either. This Tuesday, the daycare had a trip to the zoo and one parent went together with the kid. I only know this when my parents told me this at the end of the day.
Xiao Yuer, your suggestion made me realize how important it is to pick up my kid myself and that it would open so many possiblities that would help to improve.
I will try this and hope it will work out as desired.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net