本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛It does trigger my thinking on parents and kids relationship while reading the argument between Jeffrey and Huimin. Jeffrey was indeed a good kid when he was young. But in the original post, who asked for the comments? It's the mom who does not want to pay her son's prom. If this question was asked by the kid, I'd support Jeffrey and would like the kid to understand his parent reasonably. Now it's actually from another side, as a parent, does she feel mean to ask your kid to understand herself reasonably?
No matter poor or rich, if kids can understand his parents, it's great. But if they can't, as parents, can you understand them? Can you first think of taking the burden on your own shoulder rather than pushing it back to kids and asking your kids to be thoughtful and reasonable?
Why people always ask his/her kids to give up their interest to support parents' needs? Why this always happen in Chinese parents? So funny why we model such kids as "great kids"? I am wondering where the "great parents" model is.
I am a parent but I do think this is very mean ideas, though this idea favors a lot for parents interests. But it does not favor for your kids' future.
So if I were a kid, I would definitely support Jeffrey. But as a parent I support Huimin to request parent to be reasonable when rejecting kids' request.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
No matter poor or rich, if kids can understand his parents, it's great. But if they can't, as parents, can you understand them? Can you first think of taking the burden on your own shoulder rather than pushing it back to kids and asking your kids to be thoughtful and reasonable?
Why people always ask his/her kids to give up their interest to support parents' needs? Why this always happen in Chinese parents? So funny why we model such kids as "great kids"? I am wondering where the "great parents" model is.
I am a parent but I do think this is very mean ideas, though this idea favors a lot for parents interests. But it does not favor for your kids' future.
So if I were a kid, I would definitely support Jeffrey. But as a parent I support Huimin to request parent to be reasonable when rejecting kids' request.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net