本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛I still remember the days my mom has to work from 7am to 4pm, and then would rush home to cook for me, then go to another job from 6 to 9, with both jobs supplying general labour. My parents, my mom was a assistant professor while my dad was an engineer in China. We immigrated to here when they were 45 years old. They suck in English, like many of the new immigrants. They can go back but they chose to stay because they saw a greater future for me. Again, for Chinese parents, a kid's future is the most important. Frankly speaking I know how good I am. I am not the type who will end up in a first tier University in China. At my best, I might go to a decent University and graduated like many others, struggling to find a good job. But in Canada, I was able to Excel because of less competition and a combination of Chinese and Western education. They did everything they can to support me. However, they don't understand here too much when they first arrived. My mom was working so hard because they have heard about how expensive University is and they know how much they can save. In short, they thought the money they were making directly impacted our survival and my continuing education. Given if I am a parent in that situation, I would easily disallow my kid to go to the prom and save the extra two hundred dollars, not for my own but simply it can be better use elsewhere.
However with this being said, if they have the money like an average Canadian family, they will not hestitate for one second to pay for it, simply because they are very traditional Chinese parents who tried to satisfy all my needs.
My parents are very proud of me of course. They share the joy of every piece of my success. However, that doesn't mean that I can pretend nothing has happened and they did not make any sacrifice. In their minds, everything is worth it when they look at me today. In my mind, I see it as a trade off at that time. They can live in a more comfortable manner and I will struggle now. Or I can live more comfortably today because of their struggle back then.
Having said this, if I am the parents and I have the money to pay for it, I still encourage my kids to work for their own money. Especially when you are in Grade 12 and you haven't done any part time job, that means the kid is seriously lacking necessary skills to be successful in the long run. This is simply the Canadian culture. I have seen some over-confident and over-naive Chinese students, especially visa students, and it is just a joke.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
However with this being said, if they have the money like an average Canadian family, they will not hestitate for one second to pay for it, simply because they are very traditional Chinese parents who tried to satisfy all my needs.
My parents are very proud of me of course. They share the joy of every piece of my success. However, that doesn't mean that I can pretend nothing has happened and they did not make any sacrifice. In their minds, everything is worth it when they look at me today. In my mind, I see it as a trade off at that time. They can live in a more comfortable manner and I will struggle now. Or I can live more comfortably today because of their struggle back then.
Having said this, if I am the parents and I have the money to pay for it, I still encourage my kids to work for their own money. Especially when you are in Grade 12 and you haven't done any part time job, that means the kid is seriously lacking necessary skills to be successful in the long run. This is simply the Canadian culture. I have seen some over-confident and over-naive Chinese students, especially visa students, and it is just a joke.更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net