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枫下家园 / 望子成龙 / 担心地问,每天接儿子回来问及”HOW IS SCHOOL?”, 儿子总给我讲一些莫名其妙的故事. 内容真真假假. 说真是因为他是在讲他自己, 他的同学; 说假是因为故事里面又是吊车又是挖掘机, 我问施工不是结束了吗? 他就说是玩具的车... 我花了很久才悟出来, 他大概是把他自己, 他的同学和他特别爱看的一个叫MEGA BUILDER的电视节目里的内容编在一起. 讲得是他的fantasy. 请问我要不要指正他, 有必要看医生吗?
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-26
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几岁啊,如果6岁以下,鼓励孩子讲,随便说,但是要讲清楚,你问,他能回答.不用管他是真的假的,如果你太认真,太严格,孩子就不愿意开口了,语言还是要多开口的.
-newtoronto(一家三口);
2008-2-26
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6.5岁. 现在他说我就应. 开始我还问多几句, 但发现越问越糊涂. 他也越说越八卦. 听着象编瞎话.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-26
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能编圆了,也不错.不要太认真.如果愿意,可以和孩子一起读书,然后让孩子复述,或是一起看电视,睡觉前,再让孩子回忆电视,电影的内容.
-newtoronto(一家三口);
2008-2-26
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他很爱读书, 这点我不担心. 但他不爱故事书, 喜欢Facts, non-fiction. 他不是伶牙俐齿那种. 更象是嘴跟不上脑子的.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-26
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很可爱,为什么要担心?父母需要了解儿童心理,推荐好书:magic years ==>
-mssg(Wild_Killer);
2008-2-26
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谢谢推荐, 我会找来看的. 担心是因为, 怕他生活在一个虚幻的世界里. 再就是怕他由此发展成说谎. 我还想知道Fantacy 和 lie是怎样区别的.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-26
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六岁之前的儿童,几乎分不清reality 和 fantacy 的区别,所以书名 magic years ,如果父母不了解,很容易认为孩子撒谎,虚幻等等,其实这是孩子认知的开始。
-mssg(Wild_Killer);
2008-2-26
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刚借到这本书,好像是1959年第一版的。Wild_Killer是否可以推荐一本近年来出的书呢?我在想也许儿童心理学方面近年来有比较新的研究成果。
-angela999(不攻);
2008-2-26
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个人觉得,老书更耐读些。#4291866@0 是目前在读的,读者最好对基督教信仰有了解。刚订了一本,还没有拿到,讲的是生理,不是心理:Your Child's Growing Mind
-mssg(Wild_Killer);
2008-2-26
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多谢。
-angela999(不攻);
2008-2-27
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孩子在幼儿园这样的环境,承受着大人无法理解的一些压力,他们通过fantacy来缓解这样的压力,是非常普遍的,父母需要理解和鼓励
-mssg(Wild_Killer);
2008-2-26
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父母的怕,是因为不了解,开卷有益,每月一本书。
-mssg(Wild_Killer);
2008-2-26
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谢了, 这本书我一定会读.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-26
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in general, fantasy is ok for younger kids. well, having said that, for sure everything has its limit.
-win(秋天的菠菜);
2008-2-26
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也许是个文艺天才也说不定。楼主还是找些书看,或者找些专家咨询一下。别轻易认为是病,伤了孩子的心。
-haploidus(今剩叹);
2008-2-26
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"文艺天才"不象. 他整话都说不利落. 开始我是信以为真的, 也跟他对话. 他倒也接得快. 昨天给接他的老伯来了一段两车相撞, 警察拖车, 还有他忙得不可开交的. 说得老伯云里雾里, 问我发生了啥事.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-26
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这个是比较难于掌握分寸. 试试让孩子看些realistic的书...
-youbet(信不信?);
2008-2-26
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其实我还在担心他不爱看小说会影响日后的写作. 他看的书很Scientific.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-27
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我想说的是将"realistic"故事的书. 只知道女孩的书, 有Junie B Jones, Romona, Katy Kazoo... 男孩应该也有类似的书. Scientific对6岁小孩来说, 是不是都写成fantacy了... Anyway, 建议多试试, 及时调整.
-youbet(信不信?);
2008-2-27
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我儿看的书要说没法再实在了. 比如说昨晚读的是吊车, 有多少种吊车, 做何种用途, 各部位名称... 所谓的故事咧, 是说他在学校里有个建筑队, 每天回来都跟我汇报进度, 今天挖了地基, 明天要盖屋顶, 还要开会....孩子过家家我不担心. 让我担心的是他的建筑队成员一会儿是他同学, 一会儿又是电视节目里的. 节目里有个开吊车的. 我问:"谁当吊车司机?" 他说, "不是, 就是电视里那个XX吊车司机."... 他说他是挖土车司机, 我说"那么大你怎么开的?", 他说, "是给小朋友SIZE的.". 我故意说, "那你没带安全头盔吧." "学校里有, 用完就放在学校了.".... 象他发梦, 又象他说谎. 愁!
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-28
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Do u talk to his teacher yet?If you are really concerned that he may mix reality and fantasy, maybe you can speak to his teachers, since they see your child more than you do, technically speaking. And my experience, most of the teachers are pretty professional and decent here.
-bystander(bystander);
2008-2-26
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Your child is very imaginative which is a good thing. Just encoruge hime.
My boy was used to be like him. He is 8 years old. Every thing is fine with my boy
-sh20030(sh20030);
2008-2-27
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Glad to know someone has similar experience.When you say that your son is fine now. Do you mean he’s stop making up such stories? I guess what am concerned about is whether he grows up has the tendency of making up story or lying, Honestly, not everybody understand it and see it as part of the growth, and he could be mistreated as lying. I hope I am worrying too much.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-27
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My boy is still doing similar talking. He now knows what is imagination and what is realty.
I always encourage him to develop his imagination.He still makes up stories from the books and movies. You just need to tell him things could be different in real world. Children especially boys before 7 years old live in their draming world, that is why some childre seems day draming in the class room.
-sh20030(sh20030);
2008-2-27
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thanks for sharing your experience.
-ohboys(我高兴就哭);
2008-2-28
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