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枫下家园 / 望子成龙 / 妈妈们,你们说我是不是还要坚持送女儿去DAYCARE呢?女儿两岁半,个性属于早熟形,很活泼. 我在上班,由我妈带,平常跟表弟表妹一起玩.十月份我妈要回国,想在我妈回国之前让她适应DAYCARE,在上个星期把她放在DAYCARE里,哭也哭了,闹也闹了,现在问题是女儿从DAYCARE回来后变得不爱说话了.问她在DAYCARE里学什么,她说妈妈你不要问学校的事,跟她讲话,她听见也不回答,讲话显得有气无力的,整个人变得呆呆得.姐妹们,你们说说看,我还要继续把她送去DAYCARE吗?听老师说,早上送去时,她会哭,下午就会好一点.但是我怕她以后性格会不会变呀?会不会有恐惧感呢?
-betty123(1122);
2008-7-22
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赶紧接回来吧。我有个朋友的孩子也是这样,接回来后还过了好一阵才缓过来。可能这个daycare不适合你女儿。
-pepperw(乌龙);
2008-7-22
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换一家试试. 我个人坚信, DAYCARE培养出来的小孩性格一定比奶奶姥姥带出来的好. 我们家奶奶在这里的时候, 明知道不对的事也怂恿小孩去做, 只图小孩高兴, 然后向妈妈道歉, 亏她还曾是小学老师.
-roo(不喜欢下雨);
2008-7-22
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谢谢 pepper 和 roo 妈妈的意见,看到我女儿这样子,真得想哭.
-betty123(1122);
2008-7-22
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My daughter is two and eight month. Just started day care July 2. She dosen't understand English. She cries every day and every morning she dosen't want to get up from her bed,
-amy06(Tiantian);
2008-7-23
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HI AMY, where is your daughter's daycare?
-betty123(1122);
2008-7-23
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PHOENIX CHILD CENTRE.
-amy06(Tiantian);
2008-7-23
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换家DAYCARE.
-newtoronto(一家三口);
2008-7-23
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拜托能告诉我您女儿去的是哪家Daycare吗? 我正准备九月份送女儿去Daycare, 另外, 是不是从 Part-time开始, 孩子容易适应些. 我女儿现在很喜欢和小朋友玩, 但比较胆小.
-d2008(老百姓);
2008-7-23
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My daughter 's daycare is Agincout temple daycare, in Scarborough, Birchmount and Finch, beside Scarbough Grace Hospital
-betty123(1122);
2008-7-23
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回bettt 和amy: 孩子懂事了以后去daycare很多父母都面临你们这样的问题。我所知道的比较有帮助的办法是,在daycare找1-2个看性格和脾气比较投合的小朋友(这个自己观察不到的话,问问老师),周末的时候去和小朋友play date.关于set play date, 要特别地跟小朋友的家长聊聊,选择地点和时间的时候要紧着对方的方便,因为毕竟是为了你的小孩。一开始的一两周可能孩子还不大会一起玩,但要坚持几周,慢慢地孩子们就熟悉了,这样对你的孩子的适应很有帮助,她在daycare里有了好朋友以后就不那么恐惧了。
如果可能的话,play date的时候可以2-3家一起。
-yuer_xiao(小鱼儿);
2008-7-23
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Thank you for your advise. I will check if some kids live around my area.
-betty123(1122);
2008-7-23
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Thank you very much for the good suggestion. What we are trying now is that we bring her after dinner to the play ground that belongs to her daycare and try to meet some of the kids from the same daycare. I really like your suggestion.However, so far I didn't know too much about the kids in the daycare. My parents send her to the daycare at 9:30am and pick her up before 4:00pm, which is suggested by the staff as a good time frame for my daughter. So, I don't have a chance to have more contact with the daycare other than a phone call every other day.
I need to work harder on this.
-amy06(Tiantian);
2008-7-23
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Dropping off and picking up by my parents would be the one of the factors as well. I think my daughter would feel disadvantaged just because of this. Would any body give me any suggestions?Should I work something out so that I can send her or pick her up ? Might that be helpful?
-amy06(Tiantian);
2008-7-23
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You'd better send her or pick up her at least once or twice a week, then you will have chance to talk to the teachers and to know the development of your kid in daycare.
-snowbell(莹雪);
2008-7-23
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每天应该至少自己亲自接送一次,与daycare老师有交流,便于孩子与老师的交流。我有时接孩子,还坐下看孩子们玩一会儿,和别的孩子说说话。问问daycare你可,不可以去当helper,花点时间帮孩子适应那里。
-happyliveincanada(千金散尽还复来);
2008-7-23
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一周至少抽一天时间自己去接。接孩子的时候,4点到,但是别接了就走。在那儿陪孩子跟别的孩子玩儿,跟老师聊聊天。有别的家长来接小孩的时候,跟其他家长拉拉家常,争取多记住几个孩子的名字,这样两周下来,你会了解到很多有用的信息。还有一个办法,看你的情况孩子的daycare离家很近。那就下班尽早回家(如果5点多点就能到家的话最好),带着孩子去daycare玩儿。那时候可以碰到很多接孩子的家长,也是帮孩子交朋友的好机会。同时和还未下班的老师聊聊天,不见得要聊关于你的小孩,哪怕家长礼短,跟老师熟悉,让老师更多了解你的孩子都对孩子适应有帮助。总之,要让老师看到你的努力,这样老师也会相应地配合多些。
-yuer_xiao(小鱼儿);
2008-7-24
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This is something I should do. Actually, ...
-amy06(Tiantian);
2008-7-24
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这个daycare不合适你女儿。我朋友的两岁女儿上daycare两三天回家就讲英文,四五天后你不让她去还不答应呢。我儿子三岁开始上,也是很快就适应了,很高兴去。这就是好daycare的样子。
如果不想转,你每天悄悄去观察她在daycare的情况,找出原因。同时和老师多沟通。你表现出对孩子的重视,老师也会比较重视。
-xiaoxue_ca(在路上);
2008-7-23
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应该跟daycare的老师交流一下你的忧虑,看看老师能不能帮忙改变一下。帮孩子在daycare交朋友也很重要,有了朋友,就愿意去。孩子讲英文吗?孩子刚进入英文环境,都有一个适应的过程,痛苦的一关,早晚都要过。
-happyliveincanada(千金散尽还复来);
2008-7-23
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她在家里讲英文吗?这才几天,不用太早下结论,慢慢地她会听懂老师的话,也会交到小朋友。
-sisimiss(冰糖葫芦);
2008-7-23
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我观察两三岁的孩子交流肢体语言多过口语, 语言环境孩子比大人更容易适应.我觉得 LZ的女儿个性属于早熟型,很活泼, 应该是Daycare的氛围让孩子感觉不安. 我女儿腼腆胆小, 到陌生环境,就紧张成只兔子. 但当她感觉周围人友善,观察一阵就平静了, 如果有小朋友, 她就跟在后面玩, 父母离开也没问题. Daycare老师的态度影响孩子的适应过程. 小孩子也会察言观色.
-d2008(老百姓);
2008-7-23
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She doesn't speak english at home, actually she only understand a few english words. I think this is the main reason for her because she doesn't know english. I will wait for serval days to see what happen to the next.
-betty123(1122);
2008-7-23
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Actually many kids can't speak well in their home-language at your daughter's age, so don't even mention english.I'm sure your daughter could understand english if your daughter watches TV or plays with another child from here.
-d2008(老百姓);
2008-7-23
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Same for my kid. She dosen't understand English at all. Betty, we have the common point here. Both of our kids don't understand English. For my situation, It is silly.
-amy06(Tiantian);
2008-7-23
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好多老中家长是这么讲的,小时候只教中文,大了再教英文。我没敢这么执行,怕孩子到英文环境太有挫折感。第一代移民,真不知道哪种方法好。
-happyliveincanada(千金散尽还复来);
2008-7-23
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You made a better decision than me. As the first generation of the immigration, neighter of the ways would be perfect and
-amy06(Tiantian);
2008-7-24
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Tiantian, 别太难过,担心了,我们都不可能做一个perfect的母亲。尽力就好了,根据你的担心,我想你一定是个好母亲,很在意孩子的感觉。我们能做的是淡化这些挫折感,给孩子positive的支持。playdate,多在daycare陪陪都是办法。孩子从一种环境到另外一种环境都有适应的过程,或长或短,作母亲的只能在旁边默默的帮忙,太强调她的挫折感只会有副面作用。我的孩子是天生谨慎的人,经历的时间较长, 你的孩子原来很开朗,时间会短一些。记住,不要太push孩子。孩子慢慢的会变成告诉你 :"晚点来接我,我还没玩够。"
-kitkatlover2(KW-CPG);
2008-7-25
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Amy, yes, you are right. my daughter is as same as your daughter. because she doen't know english, she is afraid, scared. I asked her"Why don't you want to go to daycare?is it you don't understand english? she nodded.And when my mum picked up her and talked to the teacher, the teacher said she didn't play with other kids, and always follows one of the teacher who speak chinese. Amy, It is a hard time for us now, encourage ourselves each other, we will work it out some day. HUG ......
-betty123(1122);
2008-7-23
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借帖问一下,我家女儿2岁,很外向,不认生,我第一次把她送到MALL的KIDS PLAY CENTER(按小时付费,方便大人逛街的带孩子的地方),她就乐不思蜀了,2小时后我去接她,她看到我都跟没看到一样,继续ENJOY其中。每天都想上学,曾经路过DAYCARE看到老师和小朋友在PLAYGROUND玩,她就记住了那是上学,想去,急得直哭,不知道我女儿这种情况是不是去DAYCARE就不会不适应,不需要过渡期了呢?正在考虑9月份送她进DAYCARE,其实我是全职妈妈,只是因为觉得她太喜欢和小朋友一起玩了,所以才考虑送她去的。大家觉得我女儿会象楼长的女儿一样性格因为去了DAYCARE就有所改变了吗?孩子的性格很重要,担心中。
-estelleliu(朵朵和果果);
2008-7-26
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