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枫下家园 / 望子成龙 / I need help for my 5year old daughter.
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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她没有告诉你她为什么不回去吗? 如果她说不太清楚, 你可以用你问她回答的方式, 有时候这么大的孩子还不太清楚怎么把发生过的事情完整地叙述出来, 尤其估计她也被吓着了.
-bluepink(bluepink);
2008-11-27
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另外, 她是不是觉得那个老师不是她的老师, 所以,她不愿意听那个老师的话呢? 又或者, 她是不是很清楚那个老师对她说的话呢?
-bluepink(bluepink);
2008-11-27
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Yes, her kindergarden teacher never has this problem. This teacher, she does not know.
But her kindergarden teacher said she should listen to this adult, even though she does not know her.
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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你可以问问她是不是这个原因让她不愿意回去, 如果是, 那么你就正好告诉她以后应该怎么做. 另外,我是觉得别的问题可以不说, 但打人这件事一定要说, 告诉孩子, 不论怎么,打人都是不对的, 不能靠打人来解决问题. 不知道是不是有必要让孩子去对那个老师说对不起.
-bluepink(bluepink);
2008-11-27
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I am thinking about this too. I am going to her school after work. I wish i could see the teacher.
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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别太担心. 学校里是这样的,他们把所有发生的abnormal的情况都汇报给家长的.
前两天,我儿子还被幼儿园老师告状说他打人. 搞得我和LG很紧张,因为是第一次被告知儿子打人.
当天,我LG特地去了次学校,找老师当面谈.才得知其实不是打人,是在和同学玩的时候,把同学误伤了. 而且老师当时没有看到怎么发生的,是我儿子自己去告诉老师自己闯祸了,弄伤了同学. 所以,你最好当面问清楚情况.
另外,要和女儿多交流. 我儿子的这件事让我明白,要从多方面了解,才能知道事情的真相,不能全听老师的.
-finnair_hl_2004(finnair);
2008-11-27
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别太担心了,学校里这样的孩子,西人的也有。不用太embarassed了。多花一点时间陪孩子玩,一起做手工,做游戏,给孩子读书,多给孩子一些爱。对孩子不要太强调这件事。我观察那些angry kids,都是在家缺乏attention的。
-tianluoguniang(明月人倚楼);
2008-11-27
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Thanks. I feel guilty. I think it's me who does not know how to teach her... I feel very sad..
Thanks for your words.
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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One thing I don't understand, why is her fault? I don't see anything wong for a 5-year-old. The problem should be the grown-up.
-mygirl(nothing);
2008-11-27
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I was not nice when I talked to my daugther last night. I was very frustrated. I kept telling her only bad girl hit teacher, and santa won't give bad girl any gift... I treated her bad last night...My attitude was bad..
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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忘记这件事吧。就像你有的时候做了错事不希望别人再记起一样。不管当时发生了什么事,错得未必全是孩子。虽然才5岁,他会自己用自己的方式来吸取教训。除非他一贯打人,或经常歇斯底里,否则没什么大不了。
-mamamimi(烦心事儿真多);
2008-11-27
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Yes, I do not know what happened at that moment. What did this teacher say, or do? Did she drag her toughly...? My daughter is too young to tell me what had happened...
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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One a while she 打人,或歇斯底里.
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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Thanks for all your support. I will exam myself. I am going to her school if possible, talk to the teacher... I feel better now. Thanks.
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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don't blame her. She was absolutely right. The teacher should not have touched and/or dragged her. If the teacher did, you daughter has right to consider it was an harassment and hit back. You should complain to the principal.
-heresy(多多多多多多多多多多);
2008-11-27
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I will check with her kindergarden teacher again. My daughter hit her first, or this teacher drag her first. Thanks for your reminding...
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-27
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没有意义,她老师不会去问,更不会为了你孩子去得罪另一个老师。
-snowlife(雪飘飘);
2008-11-28
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无论啥事情发生,第一相信自己孩子, 第二不要对孩子太凶, 好好和她沟通. 孩子和老师之间,我永远选择相信自己孩子. 你是她妈妈,.你得给她支持. 任何错误只要认识到就可以改正. 也有可能是因为这老师很粗鲁导致你女儿自卫呢?
-pinkcloudy(我喜欢夏天);
2008-11-27
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Agree!!
-bei2004(yaya);
2008-11-28
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Agree!!
-snowlife(雪飘飘);
2008-11-28
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只觉得你女儿打人的事你需要管.慢慢的教给她发泄自己怒气和表达自己意见(观点)的方法,而不是用打人来泄愤.交给孩子如何和别人communicate是很重要的.我觉得那个老师也有问题,竟然为了这点事搞得你女儿大怒,好的老师不会这样子的.你不必太自责,也不要过多批评你女儿.
-zjoy(Joy);
2008-11-28
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Thanks a lot!
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-28
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别的年龄的孩子,我可能没有发言权,对5岁的孩子,我很了解,他们实在是太小了,无法描述任何事情。1)你对老师太在乎,发生这事,她的老师也只能说孩子的不对,能说其他老师的方法?关于这件事要不要再找老师谈,没有必要。主要多和她的老师交流,看她平时的表现。
2)你对孩子这事的教育方法不对,孩子以后容易做恶梦(孩子重要还是大人的脸面重要),你应该好好和孩子谈谈,只告诉她两点:follow the rules, do not hit anyone,并道歉你的态度。
3)这年龄的孩子,有时疲劳,困,饿等,容易不听话,发脾气,爱哭。
-snowlife(雪飘飘);
2008-11-28
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You are right. I might take it too seriously. I will let it go and keep in touch with her teacher. Thanks for your support. I appreciate it. Have a good weekend.
-cat71(cat71);
2008-11-28
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没有经验, 从书上看来的: Junie B Jones and a girl May在课堂拌嘴, Junie B更是唱歌, 篡改jingle bell歌词成为把MAY扔出雪撬. 老师给两个孩子的家长写了信. Junie B的妈妈看了信, 说不应该把任何人扔出雪撬 ^_^, MAY第二天说她妈妈认为她没错, 然后就没事了.
-youbet(寻常巷陌);
2008-11-28
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